How To Get A Girl Interested In You

Now you have made eye contact, exchanged smiles. You have had a nice moment already, and you haven’t even said a word! Time for Level 2:

Conversation.

Remember you're still there where you saw her. Pick up your food or drink, feel confident about yourself (if you believe in yourself, it will show in your walk, your attitude – everything about you), and walk over to her. Sit beside her, asking first if the seat is taken. If it’s a bar and there is no seat there, you could lean on the counter – but not too close. You don’t want to press yourself up against her too soon. Start off with the most often used greeting that always gets a response: “Hi” or “Hello”. Follow up with a quick compliment. Something like: “I just had to tell you, you’ve got a lovely smile” – Or beautiful eyes, or beautiful long hair. Pick the feature that really attracts you the most (from the neck up only, dude, don’t get too bold too soon!) and compliment her on it. ...now you're learning...how to get a girl interested in you!

From there, introduce yourself and extend a hand. Now you have established physical contact! It may just be a handshake, but it’s a start and can definitely lead to much more gratifying contact later on. She will probably offer up her name in return, but if she doesn’t, ask her what it is. It wouldn’t hurt to offer to buy her a drink at this point. Even if she declines the drink, that doesn’t mean that she is not interested. If she says that she is already having a drink, use that as an opening to get to hang around and talk longer. Say something like, “Then I’ll just have to wait until you’re ready for another one.” Say it with a smile; it will come out cute and charming. You will be able to see immediately if she thought it was cute and charming by her reaction. If she smiles or laughs and says okay, you are on your way. Hang in there, buddy, because she is starting to get interested.

But let’s back up for a minute. What if it didn’t start with a glance from across the room? What if the babe you want to get interested in you is seated right beside you? Do you know how to get a girl interested in you when she's right in front of you? Well...here goes...

You still look her way, though raising the glass and giving a wink might seem awkward in close quarters. Strike up the conversation the same way – “Hello,” followed by a compliment. You may also want to time the beginning of your chat with something else that will give you something to talk about. For instance, a song that was a big hit when you were in school comes on. Whether in your case that was two years ago or twenty years ago, it is still going to bring back some good memories. Share that; it may be a song or story/movie that makes her smile too. Say something like, “This really takes me back. They used to play this at every party I went to when I was in school (or at every dance, or we’d blast this so loud it made the walls shake” – whatever your memory might be). Then ask her if she remembers the song, if she likes it. Ask her if she’s got a song that she likes or that always makes her feel alive whenever she hears it. Or ask her what kind of music she likes. You could also do this with a current hit song. This not only gives you something to talk about, it gives you more moments shared smiling, which makes her think how good it feels to be around you. Which will eventually give you the chance to show her how really, really good you can make her feel.

Let’s back up again. What if the place is so crowded with people bumping into one another? Do you know how to get a girl interested in you in that sort of place? What do you do to catch her eye? In this case, it may even be acceptable to get her attention with a gentle touch on the arm or back – given the right circumstances. Making physical contact is good, but you don’t want to do it in a pushy way. And those first touches should always be gentle – no poking of the shoulder or grabbing of the wrist.

Let’s say you just walked into a crowded place and there is no free seat. The woman you want to talk to may not even be seated. If there is a crowd, you can gently place a hand on her arm or the small of her back and say, “Excuse me”, as you pass – but don’t pass far. The contact got her attention, and it really feels nice for the woman to get that gentle touch from a stranger, trust me. A soft, warm touch always feels good, and it is yet another sign that he finds her attractive. You can make sure you do this at a time when it is so crowded that you can’t really move far, or you can chat with her as you wait in line. And if it’s crowded, there may indeed be a wait.

Great so far, now you know how to get a girl interested in you and you have established a connection to make her interested in you but before you go any further, let’s discuss how to test if a woman is interested in you romantically. Hey, that will be my next post. Cheers!