5 Fast Flirting Techniques To Avoid The Friend Zone

Fast flirting is like this; you see a girl you so badly and you strike up a conversation with her or just happen to be in her life somehow without finding the right time to tell her how you really feel about her? And then all of a sudden another guy shows up and something strange happened and the girl you want so badly end up with this dude. The new dude knows about fast flirting and how to use it to his advantage.

When you initiate contact with a beautiful girl try and make an effortless habit of showing your romantic interest right away. Fast flirting helps achieve this. As you probably know, most girls decide within the first five minutes of meeting you whether you are a lover material or simply another ‘friend zone’ guy, so if you don’t declare your intentions right away, even if she finds you attractive, she may end up with your friend, who was bold enough to show his romantic desires right off the bat.

What you may not know is that those first five minutes is also the time you will run simple, low-risk tests on her to find out if she is interested in you romantically. If she is, then you have pre-qualified her, and can now move forward with more confidence into asking her out, initiating, going for the first kiss, etc. If she is not interested, then you’ve found out, you have not wasted much time, you have risked almost nothing, and can move on to someone else.

By testing her with the flirting moves, you can find out her level of interest or disinterest without doing much work or taking much risk. Here’s what to do…

The 5 Fast Flirting Techniques To Know If A Girl Is Interested In You Romantically

Guys, do this within the first 5 minutes to avoid being in the friend zone! :D

1. The Wink Test

Assuming you’re both in the same room. You can wink at her from across the room, or wink at her during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, give her a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of. If she relaxes and laughs, she is interested in more. If she gets cold or more remote, she is not. Know when to back off. Fast flirting may be a magic wand but it mustn’t work ALWAYS.

2. The Body-Check Test

The goal of this test is for her to see that you notice her body, without leaving her feeling objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her body, then back to looking her in the eyes. This should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking the glance. If she seems relaxed or happy when you meet her eyes again, she is interested in more, keep fast flirting! If she gets cold or more remote, she is not.

3. The Eye-Contact Test

While you are chatting with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact a little too long – just a fraction too long, so there’s a brief, more intimate moment between you. If she holds your eye, she is interested in more. If she looks away or seems upset by it, she is not.

4. The Compliment Test

In this test you give her a compliment, and see how she takes it. The only trap here is that the compliment must be one a potential lover would make, not one a tepid friend would. Here’s the difference: A man who is destined to be a woman’s friend compliments her by saying something like, “You have a very nice hand bag.” The compliment doesn’t show that he is interested in her romantically. It doesn’t test her, because it hasn’t given her anything romantic to react to. A real compliment is something like, “Wow, you have beautiful eyes” or “I have to tell you, you have really great style. You just light up the room”. If she smiles at your compliment, and thanks you warmly, she is interested in more. If she seems uncomfortable, she is not interested.

At first it may be uncomfortable for you to compliment her; that is okay. Keep going, keep taking the risk, and up the passion in your compliments. Yes, you are risking rejection, but that’s good!

5. The Whisper Test

Whisper to her and lean into her space. Whispering to her doesn’t mean you have to get all the way up to her ear. It may be too early in your interaction with her to get that close. But you can lean into her space (a bit closer to her) and lower the volume of your voice, to share something with her. If she comes closer or maintains her posture, she is interested in more. If she withdraws from you, she is not.

Any fast flirting move can be made into a testing move. The key is that romantic and interesting moves must:

1. Make it clear in some small way that you are romantically interested while
2. Not be so risky that you are either scary or putting your ego on the line.

With a little practice, these moves (and more like them) will become second nature to you, and you won’t even have to think about them. You will automatically do them every time you meet a woman you are attracted to. Her responses will tell you if she is interested or not, and you can assess whether or not you should initiate more aggressive moves, and take bigger risks, from that knowledge.

In case you don’t know how to walk up to her, which is the first thing, then I recommend you read How To Approach A Girl or How To Start A Conversation With A Girl.

Now it’s your turn.

What other moves have you used to fast flirt with a girl?

How To Get A Girl Interested In You

Now you have made eye contact, exchanged smiles. You have had a nice moment already, and you haven’t even said a word! Time for Level 2:

Conversation.

Remember you're still there where you saw her. Pick up your food or drink, feel confident about yourself (if you believe in yourself, it will show in your walk, your attitude – everything about you), and walk over to her. Sit beside her, asking first if the seat is taken. If it’s a bar and there is no seat there, you could lean on the counter – but not too close. You don’t want to press yourself up against her too soon. Start off with the most often used greeting that always gets a response: “Hi” or “Hello”. Follow up with a quick compliment. Something like: “I just had to tell you, you’ve got a lovely smile” – Or beautiful eyes, or beautiful long hair. Pick the feature that really attracts you the most (from the neck up only, dude, don’t get too bold too soon!) and compliment her on it. ...now you're learning...how to get a girl interested in you!

From there, introduce yourself and extend a hand. Now you have established physical contact! It may just be a handshake, but it’s a start and can definitely lead to much more gratifying contact later on. She will probably offer up her name in return, but if she doesn’t, ask her what it is. It wouldn’t hurt to offer to buy her a drink at this point. Even if she declines the drink, that doesn’t mean that she is not interested. If she says that she is already having a drink, use that as an opening to get to hang around and talk longer. Say something like, “Then I’ll just have to wait until you’re ready for another one.” Say it with a smile; it will come out cute and charming. You will be able to see immediately if she thought it was cute and charming by her reaction. If she smiles or laughs and says okay, you are on your way. Hang in there, buddy, because she is starting to get interested.

But let’s back up for a minute. What if it didn’t start with a glance from across the room? What if the babe you want to get interested in you is seated right beside you? Do you know how to get a girl interested in you when she's right in front of you? Well...here goes...

You still look her way, though raising the glass and giving a wink might seem awkward in close quarters. Strike up the conversation the same way – “Hello,” followed by a compliment. You may also want to time the beginning of your chat with something else that will give you something to talk about. For instance, a song that was a big hit when you were in school comes on. Whether in your case that was two years ago or twenty years ago, it is still going to bring back some good memories. Share that; it may be a song or story/movie that makes her smile too. Say something like, “This really takes me back. They used to play this at every party I went to when I was in school (or at every dance, or we’d blast this so loud it made the walls shake” – whatever your memory might be). Then ask her if she remembers the song, if she likes it. Ask her if she’s got a song that she likes or that always makes her feel alive whenever she hears it. Or ask her what kind of music she likes. You could also do this with a current hit song. This not only gives you something to talk about, it gives you more moments shared smiling, which makes her think how good it feels to be around you. Which will eventually give you the chance to show her how really, really good you can make her feel.

Let’s back up again. What if the place is so crowded with people bumping into one another? Do you know how to get a girl interested in you in that sort of place? What do you do to catch her eye? In this case, it may even be acceptable to get her attention with a gentle touch on the arm or back – given the right circumstances. Making physical contact is good, but you don’t want to do it in a pushy way. And those first touches should always be gentle – no poking of the shoulder or grabbing of the wrist.

Let’s say you just walked into a crowded place and there is no free seat. The woman you want to talk to may not even be seated. If there is a crowd, you can gently place a hand on her arm or the small of her back and say, “Excuse me”, as you pass – but don’t pass far. The contact got her attention, and it really feels nice for the woman to get that gentle touch from a stranger, trust me. A soft, warm touch always feels good, and it is yet another sign that he finds her attractive. You can make sure you do this at a time when it is so crowded that you can’t really move far, or you can chat with her as you wait in line. And if it’s crowded, there may indeed be a wait.

Great so far, now you know how to get a girl interested in you and you have established a connection to make her interested in you but before you go any further, let’s discuss how to test if a woman is interested in you romantically. Hey, that will be my next post. Cheers!

How To Make A Girl Notice You

How to make a girl notice you? Yeah, yeah, you have been there before. You see a gorgeous girl at the end of the eatery, watch her all night (shyly making sure she doesn’t notice you watching), then see her leave alone – or with someone else who wasn’t too shy to show his interest. Or you see the girl in a supermarket, selecting some items or flipping through the pages of a magazine. Again, you watch from a distance, looking away quickly if she glances in your direction.

Well, don’t be so afraid to be caught looking. The instinct that forces you to look away if someone notices your glance is all part of fear of rejection. Fear that the woman won’t be interested in return. But you will find many at times that she is flattered and that she will start glancing in your direction more often as soon as she notices you checking her out. And what if she doesn’t start looking back? You’ve lost nothing! Leave her alone and move on. Wanna know how to make a girl notice you? Then play the glance game right and you will be leaving that eatery with more than just a pizza to eat alone at home later. Or you will be leaving that supermarket with more than just coffee to show for it the next morning.

And that is what a glance is. It is contact, it is showing interest, and it is saying you are attracted. And what girls love more than anything else is to feel attractive! Women are totally shallow, vain creatures (no offense!). No matter how beautiful the girl, she still craves attention. And most girls have fears about their looks that most guys can’t imagine. I have read interview where supermodels complained of things they didn’t like about their bodies.

Don’t assume the girl you desire is so beautiful and sexy that surely, she knows it and that she doesn’t need reassurance from you – she does. She not only needs it, she craves it. Give it to her, and a girl who might not have given you a second glance will suddenly be dying to go home with you, dying to get more of that positive affirmation women want so badly. So don’t sit around trying to figure out how to make a girl notice you when I’ve just given you a top secret about hot girls, church girls, home girls, party girls, slutty girls, pretty girls and what have you. Read on, I’ll give you an example of how to make a girl notice you in 5 minutes or less.

Back to what I was describing; when a girl looks up, repeatedly, to see a guy looking at her, she is getting affirmation. She knows he finds her attractive or sexy. Her blood rises, her heart beats faster, and her skin gets flushed. She gets a little excited. She can’t resist looking his way again. And the game is on!

Let me give you an example of how to make a girl notice. In this example, you’ll see how a look leads to an introduction (and much, much more). Let’s say you are seated at a bar and spot a cutie you would like to get on closer terms with, seated at the other end of the bar. Look her way every now and then, resting your eyes on her for 30-40 seconds until she notices that she is being watched. If she doesn’t look your way in that amount of time, look away for a few moments before looking back. Staring for minutes on end could make her quite nervous in the off chance she saw you watching her out of the corner of her eye and didn’t acknowledge it.

When she does notice your glance, she may look quickly away at first. The tendency to be shy and self-conscious applies to girls as well. But don’t give up, she will look back. Keep looking her way until she looks up again. When she does, if she doesn’t shyly avert her eyes too quickly, go ahead and up the ante – take the risk of really showing her you are interested. You do this with a smile, maybe accompanied by waving your hand in her direction and nodding your head. If you are feeling bold and she is broadly smiling back at you, throw in a light-hearted wink. By light-hearted, I mean don’t act like you are Mr. Serious Stud winking at the hottie. Act like Mr. Guy who finds her attractive and has a sense of humor. A sense of humor is a good thing; acting too serious or like you think you really are Mr. Wonderful is a bad thing. Even if you are someone that she will later learn really is Mr. Wonderful, you shouldn’t act too aware of the fact. Humility about yourself, mixed with a good dose of admiration for the lady you have set your eyes on is a winning combination.

At the cost of ruining this smooth game, I’d like to stop here and attend to some other things guys. Do stay homed in to this site and the next time I post I’ll tell you how to get her interested in you, which is sequel to this very one (how to make a girl notice you). Don’t forget to comment your opinions or difficulties with approaching girls in the comment box below. Cheers!